The Mental Adjustments of Being Slim


 Reality check: You’ve lost weight, you’ve been successful in maintaining your weight loss, and people are complimenting you left and right. Your skin, your body shape just simple about your positive changes. But might it be too much?

On the one hand, you have experienced the physical reality of shedding pounds and clothing sizes, but this is not yet your mental reality. Deep inside, you  haven’t adjusted. You can’t quite believe that you are a thinner person once more, one who is attractive and who receives attention. It has happened more then once to my clients who have lost the weight. Surprisingly, with the weight loss comes the headache and worry as well. Is this really me? What happened to the armor (of extra pounds) that protected me like a shield? If it’s gone, what will protect me now?

A weight loss from 35 % or more down to 15% is a big change. All aspects (physical and psychological) of your life change. Think about activity levels: With less weight, it’s easier to move around. Your energy is higher:  Instead of the nighttime routine of sitting in front of the TV and snacking on fast food has changed to sitting at a table and having a conversation. And yes, I’m talking ALL activities. Your libido in the bedroom has improved. Your confidence is sky rocketing. Who would have known that weight loss could have all those benefits?

When it comes to weight loss, diet and exercise strategies should always be considered. At the same time, you really need to be prepared with mental strategies. Have you thought to put yourself into the situation in which you have achieved your goal? What would you do and how would it feel? How would you act? And then ask yourself: can you maintain this behavior or does it need training as well?

Recently, The Biggest Loser contestants spoke about their challenges after the season ended. Yes, staying on the schedule was one obstacle, but the mental adjustment was the larger one. A continuing support system is the success to any weight loss program. Are there exceptions? Yes, of course. Nothing is set in stone, but this is exactly the issue. There are many variables that need to be and can be adjusted. But here is my advice:

  • Surround yourself with active people to help maintain a slender body image
  • Pick a attainable silhouette from a fitness magazine and think about your goals and achievement to get there
  • Speak with your friends about the changes to come and get them involved. Your friends and family need to change with you.

Stay focused and make your body your business.


Stefan Aschan is a leading expert on lifestyle, health and fitness who has helped more than 30,000 people get fit through advice on nutrition, fitness and lifestyle changes. For your free “How to live 100 years in perfect health” report and the must read “updates and solution” newsletter on how to have 10 times more success, stay on top of your goals, and accomplish the change of body and appearance, click here for your FREE supscrition.

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Staying slim is a mindset that builds personal integrity. Since losing 40 pounds in 2003 (on a 5’2″ frame), keeping it off has been an accomplishment — not just on the scale but also mentally.

At x – 40, I cannot eat very much and still weigh and measure food. The daily discipline in one area influences disciplines in other parts of life. Weight maintenance has been much more than fitting into the same clothes — it has become a metaphor for self-management.


Hey, nice post, really well written. You should post more about this.


Hey, great post, really well written. You should post more about this.


nice! i’m gonna make my own journal

NIraj Kapadia
July 2nd, 2009 at

Thank you. THis is so true. Every pound over my limit has increased my breathing issues, allergies, and overall inability to complete daily task.

Keep up the good work.


I have been reading out many of your stories and it’s pretty nice stuff. I will definitely bookmark your website.

Elwanda Burdess
December 2nd, 2010 at

Very good written article. It will be useful to anyone who utilizes it, including yours truly :). Keep doing what you are doing – can’r wait to read more posts.

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